I went to the movies today. I saw “A Single Man” with Colin Firth. I did not attend the movie with Colin Firth, that would simply be too much to ask from the gods above. He stars in the movie and is breathtakingly magnificent in his performance. If you are not familiar with the movie it is directed by fashion designer Tom Ford and is set in Los Angeles in 1962 and tells the story of George Falconer, a British college professor who is is struggling to find meaning in his life after the death of his long-time partner, Jim. The movie follows George through a single day during which he plans to kill himself.
This is not a movie review, although TWO THUMBS UP….RUN OUT AND SEE THIS FILM…OSCAR WORTHY PERFORMANCE BY COLIN FIRTH!!!!!!!!!!
This is a post about how blessed we are to be allowed to freely love whoever we want to love. If you take this gift for granted then SHAME ON YOU! You can love a man or a woman or both and you can do it openly. More importantly, if something happens to that lover you can care for that person or mourn for them openly and honestly. That is a true FREEDOM!
In “A Single Man” the character George does not struggle with his sexuality. He is a homosexual man and while he is not openly gay, this is not a film about questioning oneself. Refreshing for a period movie! His struggles are with the loss of his lover – his life partner. George is not allowed to show his grief because in 1962 it was not acceptable to be in a homosexual relationship.
46 years later in the year 2010 we have made some tremendous progress on the “love-front”. However our culture is still hung-up on how we mix love and sex and love and what some call “dirty sex”. I know people who shudder at the mere suggestion of bondage in the bedroom and could never imagine how such an experience could ever be loving. Many people “love” anal sex and don’t have to be forced to bend over and take it in the ass for someone they love. (I say that very tongue in cheek). Bringing sex toys into the bedroom does not mean that you no longer love your partner and need to fill the void with batteries. For those looking to expand their sexual repertoire and improve their sex life dramatically the subjects of strap-ons, female ejaculation, erotica, S&M, sex toys are the new taboo talk.
One of the reasons that my partner and I started GO BACK TO BED was to give us women the opportunity to feel empowered in our lives and have the type of sex that we want to have. To feel that we can pleasure ourselves and our partners in a way that leaves us hanging off of the side of the bed panting- WITHOUT feeling uncomfortable shopping on a website or in a store that is full of silicone boobs and neon flashing didoes. Face it, that just is not sexy. Colin Firth is sexy. Freedom to love and have sex with whoever you want, that is sexy. Going back to bed in the middle of the day, that is sexy.
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