That’s right… you can have week-long foreplay.
Foreplay begins with the senses, with the mind, and with the emotions. Build up from there to the touchy feely stuff and you’ve begun on a solid base. You’ll want to continue the journey together.
So let’s start with Day 1.
Surprise your lover with something that stimulates his or her senses–smell, taste, touch, sight, sound. Get creative about this.
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Smell:
Maybe it’s roses or a leg of roast lamb. Maybe it’s the smell of freshly baked bread and coffee, which you, of course, sit down to eat together and talk like you used to. Maybe it’s the smell of perfume or aftershave that has a special meaning, such as that worn on your wedding day or first date.
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Taste:
Go for something that is unusual or something not experienced for a long time. Champagne? Mangos? Belgian chocolate? A favourite meal? You could splash out and go to dinner in a romantic restaurant. You could embrace the spirit of adventure and go and try something completely different. (Have you ever tried Russian food? Or Tibetan?)
Touch: When was the last time you held hands? When was the last time you kissed for ten seconds, just for the sake of kissing? Stroke her hair. Rub his neck. Give each other a foot rub. Draw a warm bath. Change the sheets on the bed.
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Sight: Make your surrounds visually appealing. Clean the house. Introduce flowers and colours. Research some Feng Shui ideas for romance. Rearrange the furniture. Go on a drive through the countryside or along the sea-side. Go and see a show or go to a romantic movie together. (Please note: slasher flicks are not romantic!)
Sound: Try turning off the television and radio. Try silence and see what you can hear. Or change the sounds around you with wind chimes or gentle music. Find some quiet moments to talk. Put your favourite shared music on and sing!
Tips- Try to cover all of the senses in one day.
- Enjoy each of the senses together. Preferably, choose something you can both enjoy.
- Talk about your experience–give it your full attention. The idea here is to share the experience and form intimacy from the small details upwards.
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